The Unorganized Leading The Unorganized

Some of you may know my 10 year old son is one of those kids who is brilliant, creative and beautiful in spirit, but isn't quite cut out for the rigors of academic life. If you are the type who likes to know the details, I can tell you he's been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Inattentive ADD (he isn't hyperactive). Essentially, he is super-focused...on what he wants to be focused on...which doesn't coincide with what teachers or parents would like him focused on. He's like many children this age, amplified by a factor of 10.

Anyway, part of the issue is that this super-focus takes up enough space in his brain that he can't hold other information such as what he needs to take to school or homework assignments. One of the most frustrating manifestations is his inability to grasp a full sentence. When you speak with him, if you speak too quickly or put too much information into a thought, he'll lose himself in one piece of it. For instance, if you say, "when you get home from school today I need for you to feed the dog and put your clothes away," he'll catch just one of those parts, like "feed the dog." He won't know when and he will not have even heard the issue about clothes. And he'll stand looking at you blankly because he knows there were more words. Sigh.

So, we've been working on life management - organizing details, using time, etc. I am a master procrastinator with an eye for the big picture. I am also challenged by details and time. (I can also be super-focused.) Here's a passage about my psychological type from Out of Time by Larry Demarest that describes me to a tee: "INFPs generally are not inclined to structure and order their worlds very tightly. Ideally life would unfold and not have to be planned out with objectives, due dates, and lists." As you might imagine, helping my son plan and keep organized is exhausting for me. What's it like for him?

What I wonder: How do people manage in similar situations? Is it a matter of letting go of conventional all together? What facet of the prism do I look through to see the true beauty in this situation?